Leadership

Leadership to me means inspiration. I inspire people to better their lives. I am a leader. I like the roll I have taken on. I love being able to inspire people to live more natural/holistic lifestyles. The thing about being a leader though, it isn’t all fun and games. You have to show up. You have to spend countless hours working. People don’t see the behind the scenes stuff that leaders do. 

In my leadership role I have a lot of fun with my oily team. But I also do a lot of work to help inspire my team. I do a lot of work to teach my team. But trust me when I say it is all worth it. The relationships I have are amazing. These are relationships I know wouldn’t be here if we hadn’t have connected through oils. Truly these are relationships that have built me into the person I am today. The most important thing to me though is that I show up for these women. You can’t be a part time friend and think you’re there for someone. If you want to inspire your leaders you need to be there 100% of the time. You need to be accountable. People need to know they can count on you! Yeah life happens and my family 100% of the time comes first. It may take me a few hours or even a day to respond to a question someone has but I’ll be there. I can guarantee I will be there. I’ll e honest though I’m totally one of those people who sucks at texting. I really do. I’ll read the text and reply in my head. 🙄 And then forget to send a text back. Definitely something I’m working on guys!!

Through the 3 years I have been doing this whole leadership thing I’ve learned A LOT. I have grown a ton.  This is the life I was made for and I know it. I have had leaders give up who I had looked up to. I never want to give up. I will never give up because like I said before this is the lifestyle I want. I literally live to help others. I thrive on this whole community that I have helped build. 

One of my favorite things about this leadership role is helping build my leaders up and locking arms with them. I do this by learning their communication color. This is a quiz I have my team members do. In college I majored in communication studies so it’s something that comes easy to me. I love it. When you know someone’s communication colors you can help play on their strengths and help lead or guide them in their weaknesses. Having someone know your strengths and weaknesses that wants to see you succeed is vital. If I know one of my leaders stresses about teaching a class I can help encourage them and I can help them plan it. I can literally help ease their stress. This helps them succeed and grow into the leader I know they can be. 

People who are watching me from the outside and who aren’t in my inner circle might think this is all a scheme or a joke or unrealistic and eventually it won’t amount to anything. But they’re wrong. I hope that one day they can experience the abundance with me because it’s legit. It’s real and it’s awesome. It literally fuels my fire and fills my cup. Leadership is what god made me for. I am here to lift others up and empower them. Don’t just watch me, come with me to the top. 

Fun in the Sun ☀️ 

My chemical free journey started before I had my children but having them has made me strive for the best of the best for our family. Checking out products on the Think Dirty app has helped us truly rid the chemical laden products we had been using in our home. Although I could talk all day about everything I’ve replaced and what I’ve replaced it with, since its summer let’s talk sunscreen! 

Sunscreen is vital during the hot summer months when our littles want to spend endless hours outside playing, right? But we shouldn’t have to sacrifice our health for this… in fact we need sun exposure too, vitamin D is critical! But what’s in sunscreen and exactly what does that SPF really mean? Among a lot of the scary ingredients listed, they often include ingredients that act as “penetration enhancers” and help the product adhere to skin. Which means many sunscreen chemicals are absorbed into the body and can be measured in blood, breast milk and urine samples. 😵 So a lot of them say if under 6 months ask a doctor… yet they’re going to be in my breast milk?! Ugh, how awful! 

There are so many factors that go into sunscreen. Why we use it, what it’s good for and so on. I want to talk about a few specific things. SPF, how we need vitamin D, and chemicals. 

SPF is not strength it’s actually time. It means, say I burn in the sun after 10 minutes when I use no sunscreen but if I use an SPF 10 then I have 10x the protection of 10 minutes so essentially I’m protected after one application of spf 10 sunscreen for 100 minutes. So really SPF kind of means nothing… well… it just means if you have a smaller SPF then you should apply more often. I recently just learned this and I couldn’t believe I didn’t know it before. Ha! I thought it meant the higher the SPF the better the protection. So then I still wanted to use the lower SPF because we need some vitamin D too. 

So about how we need vitamin D. We need it for soooo many things but how about how it keeps us happy! The sun is so demonized. I mean we truly need the vitamin D. We have an epidemic of vitamin D deficiency and then people start taking a synthetic vitamin so that they can “make up” that vitamin D deficiency. When I was in high school I had a vitamin D deficiency, so you know what my doctor recommended? She recommended I take a vitamin…. Why not just get out in the sun for a few hours everyday? As a mom, now I try really hard to get me and the girls outside everyday. Even if it’s just for an hour or even an hour here a half hour there throughout the day. It’s literally essential for our health! We do wear sunscreen especially when it’s between the hours of 10am and 2pm! I used to make my own and absolutely LOVED it! Young Living just came out with a sunscreen though and let’s be honest, with 2 kids under 2 years of age this is going to save me time and sanity. 😜the Young Living sunscreen is an SPF 10 sunscreen and its broad spectrum and absolutely amazing!! I feel confident applying it to my children knowing it’s not filled with awful hormon disrupting skin penetrating chemicals. 

It is made with naturally derived plant- and mineral-based ingredients, dermatologist tested and hypoallergenic and formulated without UV chemical absorbers (the thing I mentioned earlier where it can get into your skin/breast milk), parabens, phthalates, petrochemicals, animal-derived ingredients, synthetic preservatives, synthetic fragrances, or synthetic dyes. 

Let’s talk more about chemicals….So I was watching a video on how obviously the sun is a factor with skin cancer but it can’t be the only thing. Like think about it this way… you wear something toxic on your skin with a bunch of chemicals and you get burned. Essentially burning those toxins into your skin. 😵😫 Uhhhh hellooooo yes. This. Obviously this is playing a HuGE factor in skin cancer?! How can it not?! 

I’d rather take my natural SPF 10 and not burn than any toxic chemical laden SPF 50 into my skin. No thanks. 

If you want more information on Young Livings new sunscreen and how to get it click here

Checkout the EWG for more information on natural health related stuff!

Peace of Mind

How terrifying is this information that just came out about Justice and their make up having asbestos among other things in it?! Justice is a store geared towards children. Innocent children have been using these products and now they have a hugely increased risk for disease/early death. This is terrifying. 
Make up isn’t regulated. Why? Even if it was, what does that even mean? They allow talc powder in things like baby powder when it’s been CONFIRMED to cause cancer. Talcum powder in its natural form contains asbestos and when it’s breathed in, it basically gets to the bottom of the lungs and just stays there. 
Ever since I first became a mom I have been more conscious of what’s actually in our products. I research more because when we know better, we do better. 

There are studies done that even stoppping the use of hormonal disrupting products for a small amount of time has a benefit for you. 

Check out these articles on a recent study – 

http://news.berkeley.edu/2016/03/07/cosmetics-chemicals/

http://www.collective-evolution.com/2016/04/06/what-happens-to-your-skin-when-you-switch-to-cosmetics-with-less-chemicals/


It is my job to take care of my girls and make sure they’re not exposed to harmful things. We shouldn’t have to worry about what is in our products. We shouldn’t have to worry about our children using cancer causing agents, but thats the world we live in today. 

With Young Living we can have piece of mind, we don’t have to worry. I am so thankful god introduced me to Young Living. Young Living is more than essential oils. They carry a toxin free line of household products, baby products, and now makeup among so many other amazing products! It’s the best most luxurious make up I have ever use. It literally feels like silk on your face. The best part? I do not have to worry about my babies playing with it. When Ellie walks up while I’m putting my makeup on and wants some, I don’t have to think twice because it’s natural and chemical free. 

Do yourself a solid and get this makeup. You literally need it. It’s the best makeup out there. 

http://www.cosmopolitan.com/lifestyle/a10312254/asbestos-in-justice-tween-makeup/?src=socialflowFB

The dirty truth. 

Being a mother and a wife is not for the faint of heart. It’s a thankless job. One where you often forget to take care of yourself because you’re so busy taking care of everyone else. Being a mother means you never get 2 seconds alone, you can’t even use the bathroom without someone needing you. You don’t get a hot meal because you’re too busy helping feed someone else. You never get to shower uninterrupted. And sleep? Sleep is virtually non existent. 
In my personal experience, it’s easier to go to work outside the home everyday than it is to be an on duty mom and wife 24/7. When I work my day job I work 12 hour shifts and you know what? I’m not exhausted at the end of the day, but when I’m at home… it’s basically a 12 hour shift in a sense that Ellie wakes up around 7:30/8AM and goes to bed around 8PM… but at the end of that shift I am so exhausted I feel like I could sleep for days. 

When Ellie first started saying words, she learned daddy first and I thought I’d be off the hook when she needed anything. I thought she’d call for daddy in the middle of the night or ask him for water or a snack 20 times a day. Ha! Fat chance. That lasted a few weeks. She quickly learned mama… and now it’s me 24/7. But what makes it so worth it? When Ellie says “thank you mama.” Or when she calls for me in the middle of the night and I get to snuggle up with her and take all her fears away. Yeah, my heart literally melts. How amazing is it to be someone’s number one person? 

The thing about being a mom and a wife is it is the most exhausting, trying and difficult jobs I’ve ever had… but it’s also the most loving, and rewarding. Truly knowing I grew these babies inside me, grew them with the milk my body made special for them and taught them how to be little tiny humans. Having someone look up to you like you’re the most amazing human on the planet knowing and not caring about any of your flaws.  Honestly no job will ever compare to that. 




Here are some key things to remember to get you through motherhood:
1. Tomorrow is always a new day. If today you sucked at being a mom because you lost your patience or you looked at your phone too much that’s ok. Try again tomorrow. 

2. Always think/say positive things. About yourself and everything around you. Your child hears what you say and that will become their voice in their mind. Be positive so they can be positive. A happy positive toddler is so much more fun. 

3. They’re only young once. Let them be messy, let them make mistakes and let them explore.  You can be there to kiss their owies and help them learn. 

In the middle of the night when I’m at my wits end and all I want to do is for my baby to sleep so I can sleep I remind myself this won’t last long. Motherhood is messy. Motherhood is exhausting. Motherhood is amazing. Motherhood is everything I could have ever dreamed of and more. 

Second time mamas, it gets easier. 

I’m writing this at 7:30AM as I sip my hot coffee (yes you read that right, hot!) while both my girls are still sleeping (again, yes you read that right! They’re both sleeping!). I’m writing this to you second time mamas who need to hear this. It gets easier. It truly does. Here we are in the Wendt household 1 month since Mila was born and it’s starting to feel normal and it’s starting to get easier. We’re taking it day by day and each day gets a little easier. 
At first it was weirdly easy, then we found out Mila wasn’t eating enough which is why she was so calm – yep she was probably too tired to even cry. UGH how awful I felt about that. Then once we found out and had to start bottle feeding her she would eat too much and projectile vomit everywhere…. it was awful. Now one month under our belts and we finally have a good somewhat of might be a routine down, she’s drinking 3 ounces every 2-3 hours, my chunky monkey 10 pounder at birth is finally past her birth weight. Music to a mamas ears. 
So again I want to repeat, it gets easier. Everyday  you will achieve small milestones and realize that was the first time you did that with ease, without being scared out of your mind. 
I remember the first day Devin had to go to work and I had to be home alone with the girls. I was terrified. Like the second he left they were going to turn on me and I was outnumbered after all so what could I do. Ha! We did it though, it was rough but we figured it out. Then everyday got a little more routine, Ellie started waking up asking for her sister – Mila was now a part of Ellie’s routine. This made life easier. 
And then Mila started smiling this week. The first time she smiled at Ellie, oh my goodness and Ellie lost it. She couldn’t believe her baby was smiling at her. She gave her a million kisses and hugs and ugh I cried it was so unbelievably cute. This was right around when I had mastitis and felt like I was dying, it’s like god knew I needed something, anything to remind me to keep pushing because it gets easier. 

Oh, and leaving the house? Yeah that was unthinkable without Devin. Like no way could I do anything with two of them and one of me! Finally last week I grabbed my oils and remembered I can handle this. God wouldn’t give me this responsibility if I couldn’t handle it. So the girls and I ventured out grocery shopping – by ourselves. We only went to Sams Club because they have those huge carts and I could fit both the girls in it and a diaper bag and still have room for food. That trip went really smoothe. I had to feed Mila while we were out but we did it. I now have more courage and plan on going again, I mean we as moms are really super women and can handle anything, right? Yeah, sometimes we just need to be reminded of it. 

While our lives are no where near easy nor do we have a definite routine yet, it’s getting easier, day by day it is. I am confident that in another month it will be even better, hopefully we have a real routine by then. So second time mama, whose life is turned completely upside down right now, it gets easier. Just hold on. 
😘 xo, you got this! 

Seasons of life


This morning I was feeling really overwhelmed in my mom role and not at all prepared for Devin to go back to work as it’s Monday. In fact I was dreading him leaving because I just really wanted his help. As a mom I really don’t have time to feel this way because time isn’t stopping and the day will continue on with or without me being ready. 

 Now I know I’m only feeling this way due to lack of sleep… I forgot how little sleep you actually get with a newborn. Not to mention the wee hours of the night is when Mila gets a little cranky and just wants to be held, so typically from about 2AM to 4AM neither of us are sleeping… or she is and I’m rocking her because the second I put her down she will cry and this mama ain’t got no time for that cry it out method. This morning when I was feeling overwhelmed I really just needed a break, even if it was just for an hour. So when I finally got her back to sleep and Ellie was eating breakfast engulfed in Maya the Bee, I got some oils on, started diffusing some Joy and brewed a pot of coffee. I haven’t had coffee in probably a week so this was much needed. Then I sat down with my coffee and poured myself into a business video I’ve been wanting to watch for a few days – while I would have loved to sleep instead, this cup of coffee and video was just what I needed today in that moment. 

The gal in the video talked about seasons of life. This season I’m in will pass and we will be in a new one in the blink of an eye. This was the reminder I needed this morning. I need to embrace this season because soon miss Mila will be sleeping through the night and I just might miss those wee hours of the morning where it’s just her and I snuggling. 

Lately I’ve been so busy in my mom role I haven’t really had time for anything else. This morning I got a little bit of normalcy. I am glad I was able to recharge and heard exactly what I needed to hear in order to realize this too shall pass. I was reminded to see the beauty in this trying season even when I could fall asleep and probably sleep for a day. 

So moral of the story is the seasons are always changing and they usually don’t last too long. 

Wendt Party of Four


It’s officially been just a little over a week since miss Mila made her entrance into the world. So far we’ve experienced every emotion you can think of but are adjusting nicely to being a family of four. Insert hashtag Wendtpartyof4. We’re figuring out somewhat of a routine, as routine as you can get with a toddler and a newborn. 
When Ellie was a newborn she was colicky and life was hard. It’s so different this time around. I have some thoughts on why – such as Ellie had a protein dairy allergy that we didn’t know about and we got her vaccinated which caused a number of other issues which made for a very uncomfortable baby. This second time around parents we are now, we obviously still don’t know everything but we have at least been around the block once and learned enough to know what we can do differently this time. This time I’ve given up dairy already, no vaccinations and she’s already been to the chiropractor.  

Why am I giving up dairy again?
The other day I had eaten a Hershey’s chocolate bar after supper and later on that night Mila was so grumpy and nothing made her comfortable, then the following day I had one after lunch and later in the afternoon same thing – a grumpy mess. So we experimented the next day no chocolate and you can guess how the day went… she wasn’t upset at all. Soooo until further notice I am not having chocolate which is why I just decided if I can’t have chocolate I’m just giving up dairy all together. With Ellie I gave up dairy and lost over 60 pounds (more weight than I actually gained while pregnant!).  I am hoping to have the same results this time. It’s hard not having dairy but a happy baby is SO worth every craving I can’t indulge in. Plus it’s kind of fun Pinteresting new meal ideas/snacks. 


Ellie is loving being a big sister. She asks for baby the second she wakes up in the morning. She loves when Mila is awake and looking at her. She got really excited the other day because Mila was watching Maya the Bee with her, one of her favorite shows! We are so blessed that Ellie loves her so much, it has made this whole life change just that much easier.  We are so blessed. 

Essentially summertime

My favorite uses for essential oils in the summertime!! 

1. Homemade sun lotion! 

We have tried TONS of homemade sun lotions and have never been impressed. We found one that uses zinc and it was a game changer. I actually found the recipe from another blog! 

https://realfoodrn.com/diy-waterproof-sunscreen-thats-good-skin/

Seriously it’s hands down the best we’ve ever used! Essential oils are actually NOT SPF so the zinc is what makes it SPF – it’s a must, don’t skip it! We still add 7 drops lavender EO and 5 drops carrot seed EO for the scent and the other benefits these EOs have for the skin! 

2. Homemade outdoors annoyance spray!

I cannot stand bug spray like I despise it, it’s sticky, smelly and no one wants to lay in their bed at night and smell that stuff. Yuck! All the chemicals in it are also horrible for us so why not make one that’s chemical free?! Not to mention my homemade stuff works better than anything I’ve ever used! 

In an 8oz glass spray bottle

20 drops purification EO

5 drops geranium EO, citronella EO, Lemon Grass EO. 

2 drops peppermint EO, blue cypress EO and Lavender EO. 

A splash of witch hazel for preservative and fill the rest with water! 

So simple, so worth it!
 
3. Lavender to soothe sunburned skin!

Lavender is soooo soothing, we’ve used it on sunburned skin with great results! Either applying neat (by itself no carrier oil) or making a little spray bottle 20 drops lavender and fill the rest with liquid aloe Vera. We apply often! 

4. Itch stick for big bites!

So I buy these little roller bottles from amazon. In them I usually do 5-20 drops essential oil, just depending on the oil then fill the rest with a carrier oil – my two favorites are Young Livings V-6 or Sweet Almond Oil which you can usually find at your local grocery store. 

For the itch stick I do 5 drops lavender EO and purification EO. 
5. Owie (or as Ellie calls it, ouchie) stick!

So for owies I do 7 drops Melrose Essential Oil. Melrose is good for cleansing and skin health. We just roll it directly on any owies! 
6. Diffusing! 

Lime and peppermint are my absolute favorite to diffuse during the summer…. my second favorite is purification. Have you ever had a bonfire or your neighbors had one and your windows were open which stunk up your house? Yeah that goes away with purification. 🙂
Mojito

4 drops peppermint

4 drops lime 

Lake House

3 drops pine 

3 drops Idaho balsam fir

3 drops stress away 

Summer Lovin’

3 drops bergamot 

3 drops lime 

3 drops stress away 

Peace Out Bugs

4 drops citronella 

3 drops lemongrass 

2 drops lavender 

7. Seasonal respiratory support roll on! 

So in the spring/summer I love being outside but my eyes/nose…. not so much! Having to blow your knows 10 million times a day, ya not fun. 

I always find relief with lemon essential oil, lavender essential oil and peppermint essential oil – while nursing I avoid peppermint EO and use copaiba essential oil instead! Peppermint has a negative effect on my supply. 

I put 10 drops each in a roller bottle and fill the rest with sweet almond oil. Roll it around my ears/over my sinus areas on my face and under my nose!  👌🏻 

I am not a doctor and do not claim to cure treat or diagnose anything using essential oils. 

Why can’t women have both?

 

Dreams or children? I feel like the hype now a days is women putting off having babies so they can pour themselves into a career.

Who says you cant have both? Well having both can be hard. Extremely hard. It’s hard with the way the norm of the hustle and bustle work life is Monday – Friday 8AM to 5PM or more if you’re some big boss executive running a company. But does it have to be that way?

NO.

I graduated college planning to do something with my career… until I had my daughter and realized I HATED working Monday – Friday and her spending all day with someone else when all I wanted was to be with her, watch her grow, snuggle her, kiss her before nap time. Seeing her for 2 hours at night after work/before bed when we were trying to cram in supper and a bath before bedtime was no, not for me, at all.

The funny thing is before my husband and I started having kids he always said he wanted me to stay home with our children but I was always against it… in fact I didn’t even want kids, I wanted a career. 4 years of marriage later and I had the baby fever. It’s so crazy when you become a mom how much your life changes and your thoughts and wants and dreams change right along with it, or at least mine did.  I left my full time job for a part time job when Ellie was around 8 months old. That was OK for awhile but I was still working Monday – Friday just shorter days and I still felt like this wasn’t for me. But guess what I was also working my own business on the side and that’s where my real passion was.

Who says you cant have both? Babies and an amazing boss bitch career? Guess what, I am doing it. I have an amazing team of oily women and mommies by my side doing this thing where we get to share how these amazing products have changed our lives and while we’re doing that we’re bringing home the bacon. This is so much more rewarding than my college career would have ever been. I get to not only change other peoples lives, help mommies so their babies can sleep through the night, fix upset tummies and all the endless possibilities that come along with these amazing products but I get to do this all while I’m home with my babies. The other amazing thing about my oily career is the friendships  and connections that have come out of it.  I get to get together with these ladies and its amazing how much you connect with someone when you’re changing lives.  We get together and get to talk about our favorite stuff and get to bounce ideas off each other – its great because we can bring our babies and we don’t have some boss telling us nope bring them to daycare.

This. Is. Life.

This is what god had in the plans for me all along, it just took awhile for me to figure it out.

So selling isn’t for you? Great because its not for me either. I don’t sell. I don’t do this for the money either, is that a great perk? Obviously, but that’s not what its about for me. I do this for that feeling I get when these hippidy dippidy oils work. I do this for all those people out there searching for something different. Something that’s going to work.

I do this to change lives just like mine was forever changed when I was introduced to essential oils. I do this because they truly work and why would I keep quiet about something that truly works. It’s just like when you eat somewhere delicious or you go to a great chiropractor – you tell your friends so they can experience it just as you do!

If you’ve been looking for something more, something different, change, here is your sign. Don’t wait because you’re the only one who can change where you are in life.  You have all the power, if you want those babies but you also have dreams, go get them because a happy mama makes for everyone around her to be happy too.

Forgotten Thank Yous

Problem: We get so caught up in the hustle and bustle of our daily lives we forget to notice the things our loved ones do for us… or maybe we don’t forget to notice but we definitely forget to thank them.

Solution: Make a more conscious effort to show our loved ones they matter, we care and we noticed their selfless acts.

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With Fathers day around the corner, my husband and all he does for me and our family has been weighing heavy on my mind.

The garbage.

The lawn.

The endless errands.

Making sure our chickens are taken care of.

Giving baths and tucking babies in at night.

And all the other little things in between.

Although I may miss a few… or lets be honest a few hundred thank yous, nothing goes unnoticed.

I am so blessed to have such a selfless husband. I work part time and he still goes above and beyond to make sure I have what I need even though hes home A LOT less than I am.

In our household my husband is very outnumbered. We have me, soon to be two daughters, two female dogs, a flock of hens and even a female duck! To say hes surrounded by estrogen is an understatement! 😛 All of us gals are so so so blessed to have such a selfless man in our lives. He is always making sure we have what we need …. even if that means chasing the duck around in the rain to make sure she makes it into the coop before the door is closed for the night – yes this really happened!

 

But just because Thank Yous are not said doesn’t mean there isn’t a way to show appreciation or to show that you do really care.

Some of my favorite ways to show appreciation on a daily basis

  • I’m selfless right back
  • I do those little things that “no one notices”, they really matter!
  • I buy little treats – favorite ice cream/candy bars just because they crossed my mind while I was at the store.
  • I let my husband know how good he looks in his new shirt – even if I bought it for him ;)!

It really doesn’t take all that much to do something little to show you were thinking of someone. One of my favorite things to do is send out hand written notes to people. I LOVE getting hand written notes in the mail so I know when I am sending them out just how great the other person is going to feel. Its so simple yet so thoughtful. Now obviously I am not going to send my husband a hand written note but that doesn’t mean I cant send him a quick text!

Lets make a more conscious effort to show our loved ones they matter.

My point is to do those little things, show your appreciation because your loved ones notice it.   They are thankful every second of the day even if its not being said out loud.