Ellie’s birth story. 

It’s crazy how different and unique every birth is in its own way. Today I was reading about Kail Lowrys recent birth and I just felt like reliving my birth stories. 😜 They’re both totally different from one another, I don’t even know what I should expect if we have a third!

I’m going to break it down into two different blog posts. First up Elianne Nicole –

With Ellie I had been measuring 2 weeks ahead since around 30 weeks pregnant, I had no symptoms of pregnancy until the end when I swelled up like a balloon. By the end I had gained well over 60 pounds. 😞. I remember during my commute to and from work I would just sit there and talk to her in my belly. Ask her to make this whole birth thing fast and easy and tell her how nervous I was for birth but how excited I was to meet her.  How I wondered what she would look like… based on our 38 week ultrasound (she was measuring 40 weeks so they wanted to make sure she was ok in there) we were sure she was her daddies mini, she had the Wendt nose for sure.

I remember walking the mall every lunch break because I was so done with being pregnant but Devin was adamant that she wait until Septmeber because his birthday is September 4th and he wanted a birthday buddy. Apparently she wanted that too because here it was Septmeber and I was still pregnant.

Devin woke me up in a panic asking if I peed the bed! Yes he legit asked me that … I honestly was going to smell it because I wasn’t sure, instead when I stood up and more water gushed out of me I knew my water had broken. It was 10:30 PM Septmeber 1st, we had literally been sleeping maybe an hour and Ellie wasn’t due for another 2 weeks, we were shocked. I called labor and delivery because I’m a first time mom I have no idea what to expect. They asked if I was having contractions… nope just fluid gushing everywhere. She told me not to worry, don’t rush I probably had plenty of time. Cool. So I decided I’m going to shower, shave my legs ya know get ready for the big show. All while Devin is layering towels on the passenger seat in his truck. 😂 We text/call everyone to let them know and to have my sister in law meet us at the hospital, I don’t even think she’d been to sleep yet that night.

An hour later we’re in the truck driving to Mankato joking about how insane this is and that I’m not having any contractions. I joked about what if I was some weird person who just can’t feel them? Ya right my husband says that’s crazy. (Remember this when we get to Milas birth story, it’s important).

We’re at the hospital, filling out paperwork blah blah blah. They weigh me, start the IV and check me. I was 5 cm dilated. Cool! They hook me up to the monitors and it’s going all nuts I’m having consistent contractions but I’m not in any pain. They kept asking me if I could feel them. Nope. I literally couldn’t feel a thing. A few hours later they’re convincing me I should get pitocin to speed this up because I wasn’t progressing fast enough. 😩 Big mistake HUGE. They start me on pitocin and by 5 AM my contractions are getting painful – my husband is doing this thing where he squeezed my hips together – something we learned in a birthing class. Y’all that combined with Panaway essential oil kept me sane and comfortable until about 7AM when I was 8cm dilated. I begged for the epidural. I lashed out at the nurses wanting them to turn the pitocin down or off anything to make it stop. They aren’t supposed to give epidurals at 8cm they say, but they do it anyway. Folks that shit hurt worse than labor no lie. By about 8AM the epi is working its magic and I’m taking a snooze since ya know we hadn’t slept in over 24 hours at this point. I wake up around 9 asking for them to check me because the pressure was insane and I felt like I needed to poop so with everything I had read this meant it was time to push.

Sure enough I was 10CM dilated. It was finally time to push. By this time my epi was wearing off and I could feel everything which wasn’t a terrible thing because then I could feel my contractions and I could tell when I should push, right? Whatever that didn’t help because I still pushed for AN HOUR. Right when I feel so defeated and past my breaking point she finally, just after 10AM on Septmeber 2nd 2015, came screaming into this world and she didn’t stop screaming until Devin held her. 😍 She was a daddies girl from day 1.

* I’m so huge in this picture I was over 200 pounds but I’m not ashamed of this, this was our first family picture and I’m so in love with how amazing our bodies are with all the changes we put them through.

Stay tuned for Miss Milas birth story 🙂 that ones crazy all in its own way.

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Get fall ready.

Ya’ll, I am so not ready for fall/winter. Okay, so normally I’m the basic bitch screaming with excitement about all things pumpkin spice, chunky sweaters and crockpot meals. BUT this year I am just not ready to give up summer. So instead I’m fall cleaning… tricking myself, ya know since we always spring clean!!? Well this past spring I was hugely pregnant and totally NOT nesting. Like I was WAY too big to even want to move. haha! But seriously, so I didn’t really do a lot of spring cleaning. So, I’m DIYing all my fave cleaning recipes, floor cleaner, thieves spray, baking soda carpet spreads, all the goodies… and I’m going to share them all with you! 🙂

1: all purpose Thieves household cleaning spray! 

The MAC DADDY of all cleaning products. This is something I use everyday because it is SO simple, cheap, versatile and completely plant based! I gave up harsh chemical cleaners about 2 years ago when I jumped in to a chemical free lifestyle. You know that awful burning sensation your nostrils have from smelling cleaning products that makes you just absolutely dread having to even use? Ya this stuff is SO MUCH BETTER. Like it smells like cinnamon goodness.

What can this be used for…. uh everything!

  • walls
  • countertops
  • tables
  • toys
  • door handles
  • MIRRORS (trust me its streak free!!)
  • windows
  • lit-er-ally EVERYTHING

2: How about those carpets!?

Grab your baking soda out of the fridge, yeah the one that’s been sitting open for a few months ;). Dump that in a bowl, grab your purification essential oil and drop in like 20 or more drops, mix it up and just sprinkle it ALL OVER your carpet. Everywhere! If you can, do this at night before bed or before you’re about to leave for work, you want to let it sit for as long as possible.

Once its been several hours (or 20 minutes if you just don’t have time to let it sit), and vacuum it up! BAM!

3: Thieves Paste

Okay so this is something awesome to use if you have hard water like I do. I like to use this on my sink, in my bathtub, oven or on tough stuck on grease/stains.

 

  • 1 Cup baking soda
  • 1 – 2 scoops Thieves Dishwasher detergent (optional)
  • 1 capful Thieves household cleaner
  • Enough water or vinegar to make it into a paste

 

Spread it on where you need it, you can let it sit if you want or just scrub it a bit, I like to scrub it with homemade scrubbies (they’re similar to scotch pads you can buy at the store but better!).

 

4. Hardwood floor cleaner

Spoiler alert – this is for more than hardwood floors! Its for any hardwood in your entire house! I have used this on baseboards, cupboards, floors, and built-ins!

  • 1/4 cup Thieves Household Cleaner
  • 1/2 cup Olive oil or sweet almond oil (whatever you have)
  • 10-20 drops essential oil (my faves are lemon/orange)
  • put this all in a bucket and had hot water!

The first time I ever did this I had to change the bucket of water about 5-6 times by the time I was done cleaning all the wood in my house… now I can use 1-2 buckets. YUCK right!!!?

*Just note, I have light wood in my house so lemon was fine to use, if you have dark wood definitely spot test it first! I have used it on my dark wood tables without any issues.

 

3 reasons I LOVE using Young Living products, versatility/simplicity, MONEY SAVING, and non toxic.

Truly Young Living products are SO versatile for cleaning I love being able to use one product for multiple things. Like the dishwasher soap is so awesome for tough greasy yucky messes. Also, simplicity, like this is so easy y’all, dump a little in/add some water. Cant get more simple than that for something that’s DIY!

I’m all about saving money and being able to use one product for multiple things is how I do it. A bottle of Thieves Household cleaner (14.4 fl oz) is $22 BUT its highly concentrated that’s why just a capful can be diluted with water. I probably go through 3 bottles a year, A YEAR, and I use it for cleaning everything. Bye bye are the days that under our sinks are filled with 10 different bottles of cleaner. You can throw away all that crap and have ONE spray bottle.

The other amazing part about it is that its plant based so I am confident that my children can help me and I do not have to worry about them getting it in their mouths.

 

 

 

 

My bus.

The other day I was super bummed out. Someone didn’t want to get on my bus. Okay you’re thinking you don’t drive a bus. Well I’m reading this book, its called The Energy Bus and its a must read. The analogy is that we all drive our own bus its called life, as you’re driving, people can get on and be a part of your dream or not. What you put into that bus is what you’re going to get out of it, kind of thing. Are you picking up what I’m laying down? Okay good, so back to the other day. The other day I was super bummed about this situation.  I called my husband crying to him. I confessed to him I just didn’t understand. What am I doing wrong? He reassured me I wasn’t doing anything wrong. He reassured me there was a reason for this. He was right. God always has a plan and I must trust His plan. 

I have this thing, this guilty pleasure for reading  self development/personal growth books thing and I hadn’t read my book in a few days. Today when I picked up my book, that very chapter was about people not getting on your bus. I needed this.  THAT is why I read these books! I’m not kidding when I say whenever I pick up one of my books I always read something valuable, something that speaks to me or inspires me to keep going.  Its like when you’re in church on Sunday and the pastor is giving his sermon and it literally just speaks to you. Everything about it is like dang I needed to hear this. This is my life. 

Well here’s the thing not everyone is meant to get on your bus. The chapter explained this to me. We shouldn’t take this personally. As much as we want to be able to help everyone and inspire anyone, the thing is we may not be for everyone and thats ok. God has a plan, we need to trust him.  If someone who isn’t meant to be on your bus gets on, they could derail you. 

Ain’t nobody got time for that!
I know this. I know that you’re not meant to be liked by everyone. You could be the juiciest peach but some people still don’t like peaches. But I’m a huge yellow personality and I wear my heart on my sleeve so often times my feelings get hurt. And that’s ok too, but we can’t let it stop us from loving on and pouring over those who do get on our bus and we can’t let it stop us from asking people to be on our bus. 

So get back on your bus and drive that shit straight to your goals. Pick up those that want to join you and you know what, those that don’t want to? Well you just drive right on by those folks because you don’t need them anyway. You don’t need to waste energy on people who will just drain the happy from your bus. ✌🏻✌🏻✌🏻✌🏻


📸: OolaLife
 

 

 

 

Leadership

Leadership to me means inspiration. I inspire people to better their lives. I am a leader. I like the roll I have taken on. I love being able to inspire people to live more natural/holistic lifestyles. The thing about being a leader though, it isn’t all fun and games. You have to show up. You have to spend countless hours working. People don’t see the behind the scenes stuff that leaders do. 

In my leadership role I have a lot of fun with my oily team. But I also do a lot of work to help inspire my team. I do a lot of work to teach my team. But trust me when I say it is all worth it. The relationships I have are amazing. These are relationships I know wouldn’t be here if we hadn’t have connected through oils. Truly these are relationships that have built me into the person I am today. The most important thing to me though is that I show up for these women. You can’t be a part time friend and think you’re there for someone. If you want to inspire your leaders you need to be there 100% of the time. You need to be accountable. People need to know they can count on you! Yeah life happens and my family 100% of the time comes first. It may take me a few hours or even a day to respond to a question someone has but I’ll be there. I can guarantee I will be there. I’ll e honest though I’m totally one of those people who sucks at texting. I really do. I’ll read the text and reply in my head. 🙄 And then forget to send a text back. Definitely something I’m working on guys!!

Through the 3 years I have been doing this whole leadership thing I’ve learned A LOT. I have grown a ton.  This is the life I was made for and I know it. I have had leaders give up who I had looked up to. I never want to give up. I will never give up because like I said before this is the lifestyle I want. I literally live to help others. I thrive on this whole community that I have helped build. 

One of my favorite things about this leadership role is helping build my leaders up and locking arms with them. I do this by learning their communication color. This is a quiz I have my team members do. In college I majored in communication studies so it’s something that comes easy to me. I love it. When you know someone’s communication colors you can help play on their strengths and help lead or guide them in their weaknesses. Having someone know your strengths and weaknesses that wants to see you succeed is vital. If I know one of my leaders stresses about teaching a class I can help encourage them and I can help them plan it. I can literally help ease their stress. This helps them succeed and grow into the leader I know they can be. 

People who are watching me from the outside and who aren’t in my inner circle might think this is all a scheme or a joke or unrealistic and eventually it won’t amount to anything. But they’re wrong. I hope that one day they can experience the abundance with me because it’s legit. It’s real and it’s awesome. It literally fuels my fire and fills my cup. Leadership is what god made me for. I am here to lift others up and empower them. Don’t just watch me, come with me to the top. 

Fun in the Sun ☀️ 

My chemical free journey started before I had my children but having them has made me strive for the best of the best for our family. Checking out products on the Think Dirty app has helped us truly rid the chemical laden products we had been using in our home. Although I could talk all day about everything I’ve replaced and what I’ve replaced it with, since its summer let’s talk sunscreen! 

Sunscreen is vital during the hot summer months when our littles want to spend endless hours outside playing, right? But we shouldn’t have to sacrifice our health for this… in fact we need sun exposure too, vitamin D is critical! But what’s in sunscreen and exactly what does that SPF really mean? Among a lot of the scary ingredients listed, they often include ingredients that act as “penetration enhancers” and help the product adhere to skin. Which means many sunscreen chemicals are absorbed into the body and can be measured in blood, breast milk and urine samples. 😵 So a lot of them say if under 6 months ask a doctor… yet they’re going to be in my breast milk?! Ugh, how awful! 

There are so many factors that go into sunscreen. Why we use it, what it’s good for and so on. I want to talk about a few specific things. SPF, how we need vitamin D, and chemicals. 

SPF is not strength it’s actually time. It means, say I burn in the sun after 10 minutes when I use no sunscreen but if I use an SPF 10 then I have 10x the protection of 10 minutes so essentially I’m protected after one application of spf 10 sunscreen for 100 minutes. So really SPF kind of means nothing… well… it just means if you have a smaller SPF then you should apply more often. I recently just learned this and I couldn’t believe I didn’t know it before. Ha! I thought it meant the higher the SPF the better the protection. So then I still wanted to use the lower SPF because we need some vitamin D too. 

So about how we need vitamin D. We need it for soooo many things but how about how it keeps us happy! The sun is so demonized. I mean we truly need the vitamin D. We have an epidemic of vitamin D deficiency and then people start taking a synthetic vitamin so that they can “make up” that vitamin D deficiency. When I was in high school I had a vitamin D deficiency, so you know what my doctor recommended? She recommended I take a vitamin…. Why not just get out in the sun for a few hours everyday? As a mom, now I try really hard to get me and the girls outside everyday. Even if it’s just for an hour or even an hour here a half hour there throughout the day. It’s literally essential for our health! We do wear sunscreen especially when it’s between the hours of 10am and 2pm! I used to make my own and absolutely LOVED it! Young Living just came out with a sunscreen though and let’s be honest, with 2 kids under 2 years of age this is going to save me time and sanity. 😜the Young Living sunscreen is an SPF 10 sunscreen and its broad spectrum and absolutely amazing!! I feel confident applying it to my children knowing it’s not filled with awful hormon disrupting skin penetrating chemicals. 

It is made with naturally derived plant- and mineral-based ingredients, dermatologist tested and hypoallergenic and formulated without UV chemical absorbers (the thing I mentioned earlier where it can get into your skin/breast milk), parabens, phthalates, petrochemicals, animal-derived ingredients, synthetic preservatives, synthetic fragrances, or synthetic dyes. 

Let’s talk more about chemicals….So I was watching a video on how obviously the sun is a factor with skin cancer but it can’t be the only thing. Like think about it this way… you wear something toxic on your skin with a bunch of chemicals and you get burned. Essentially burning those toxins into your skin. 😵😫 Uhhhh hellooooo yes. This. Obviously this is playing a HuGE factor in skin cancer?! How can it not?! 

I’d rather take my natural SPF 10 and not burn than any toxic chemical laden SPF 50 into my skin. No thanks. 

If you want more information on Young Livings new sunscreen and how to get it click here

Checkout the EWG for more information on natural health related stuff!

Peace of Mind

How terrifying is this information that just came out about Justice and their make up having asbestos among other things in it?! Justice is a store geared towards children. Innocent children have been using these products and now they have a hugely increased risk for disease/early death. This is terrifying. 
Make up isn’t regulated. Why? Even if it was, what does that even mean? They allow talc powder in things like baby powder when it’s been CONFIRMED to cause cancer. Talcum powder in its natural form contains asbestos and when it’s breathed in, it basically gets to the bottom of the lungs and just stays there. 
Ever since I first became a mom I have been more conscious of what’s actually in our products. I research more because when we know better, we do better. 

There are studies done that even stoppping the use of hormonal disrupting products for a small amount of time has a benefit for you. 

Check out these articles on a recent study – 

http://news.berkeley.edu/2016/03/07/cosmetics-chemicals/

http://www.collective-evolution.com/2016/04/06/what-happens-to-your-skin-when-you-switch-to-cosmetics-with-less-chemicals/


It is my job to take care of my girls and make sure they’re not exposed to harmful things. We shouldn’t have to worry about what is in our products. We shouldn’t have to worry about our children using cancer causing agents, but thats the world we live in today. 

With Young Living we can have piece of mind, we don’t have to worry. I am so thankful god introduced me to Young Living. Young Living is more than essential oils. They carry a toxin free line of household products, baby products, and now makeup among so many other amazing products! It’s the best most luxurious make up I have ever use. It literally feels like silk on your face. The best part? I do not have to worry about my babies playing with it. When Ellie walks up while I’m putting my makeup on and wants some, I don’t have to think twice because it’s natural and chemical free. 

Do yourself a solid and get this makeup. You literally need it. It’s the best makeup out there. 

http://www.cosmopolitan.com/lifestyle/a10312254/asbestos-in-justice-tween-makeup/?src=socialflowFB

The dirty truth. 

Being a mother and a wife is not for the faint of heart. It’s a thankless job. One where you often forget to take care of yourself because you’re so busy taking care of everyone else. Being a mother means you never get 2 seconds alone, you can’t even use the bathroom without someone needing you. You don’t get a hot meal because you’re too busy helping feed someone else. You never get to shower uninterrupted. And sleep? Sleep is virtually non existent. 
In my personal experience, it’s easier to go to work outside the home everyday than it is to be an on duty mom and wife 24/7. When I work my day job I work 12 hour shifts and you know what? I’m not exhausted at the end of the day, but when I’m at home… it’s basically a 12 hour shift in a sense that Ellie wakes up around 7:30/8AM and goes to bed around 8PM… but at the end of that shift I am so exhausted I feel like I could sleep for days. 

When Ellie first started saying words, she learned daddy first and I thought I’d be off the hook when she needed anything. I thought she’d call for daddy in the middle of the night or ask him for water or a snack 20 times a day. Ha! Fat chance. That lasted a few weeks. She quickly learned mama… and now it’s me 24/7. But what makes it so worth it? When Ellie says “thank you mama.” Or when she calls for me in the middle of the night and I get to snuggle up with her and take all her fears away. Yeah, my heart literally melts. How amazing is it to be someone’s number one person? 

The thing about being a mom and a wife is it is the most exhausting, trying and difficult jobs I’ve ever had… but it’s also the most loving, and rewarding. Truly knowing I grew these babies inside me, grew them with the milk my body made special for them and taught them how to be little tiny humans. Having someone look up to you like you’re the most amazing human on the planet knowing and not caring about any of your flaws.  Honestly no job will ever compare to that. 




Here are some key things to remember to get you through motherhood:
1. Tomorrow is always a new day. If today you sucked at being a mom because you lost your patience or you looked at your phone too much that’s ok. Try again tomorrow. 

2. Always think/say positive things. About yourself and everything around you. Your child hears what you say and that will become their voice in their mind. Be positive so they can be positive. A happy positive toddler is so much more fun. 

3. They’re only young once. Let them be messy, let them make mistakes and let them explore.  You can be there to kiss their owies and help them learn. 

In the middle of the night when I’m at my wits end and all I want to do is for my baby to sleep so I can sleep I remind myself this won’t last long. Motherhood is messy. Motherhood is exhausting. Motherhood is amazing. Motherhood is everything I could have ever dreamed of and more. 

Second time mamas, it gets easier. 

I’m writing this at 7:30AM as I sip my hot coffee (yes you read that right, hot!) while both my girls are still sleeping (again, yes you read that right! They’re both sleeping!). I’m writing this to you second time mamas who need to hear this. It gets easier. It truly does. Here we are in the Wendt household 1 month since Mila was born and it’s starting to feel normal and it’s starting to get easier. We’re taking it day by day and each day gets a little easier. 
At first it was weirdly easy, then we found out Mila wasn’t eating enough which is why she was so calm – yep she was probably too tired to even cry. UGH how awful I felt about that. Then once we found out and had to start bottle feeding her she would eat too much and projectile vomit everywhere…. it was awful. Now one month under our belts and we finally have a good somewhat of might be a routine down, she’s drinking 3 ounces every 2-3 hours, my chunky monkey 10 pounder at birth is finally past her birth weight. Music to a mamas ears. 
So again I want to repeat, it gets easier. Everyday  you will achieve small milestones and realize that was the first time you did that with ease, without being scared out of your mind. 
I remember the first day Devin had to go to work and I had to be home alone with the girls. I was terrified. Like the second he left they were going to turn on me and I was outnumbered after all so what could I do. Ha! We did it though, it was rough but we figured it out. Then everyday got a little more routine, Ellie started waking up asking for her sister – Mila was now a part of Ellie’s routine. This made life easier. 
And then Mila started smiling this week. The first time she smiled at Ellie, oh my goodness and Ellie lost it. She couldn’t believe her baby was smiling at her. She gave her a million kisses and hugs and ugh I cried it was so unbelievably cute. This was right around when I had mastitis and felt like I was dying, it’s like god knew I needed something, anything to remind me to keep pushing because it gets easier. 

Oh, and leaving the house? Yeah that was unthinkable without Devin. Like no way could I do anything with two of them and one of me! Finally last week I grabbed my oils and remembered I can handle this. God wouldn’t give me this responsibility if I couldn’t handle it. So the girls and I ventured out grocery shopping – by ourselves. We only went to Sams Club because they have those huge carts and I could fit both the girls in it and a diaper bag and still have room for food. That trip went really smoothe. I had to feed Mila while we were out but we did it. I now have more courage and plan on going again, I mean we as moms are really super women and can handle anything, right? Yeah, sometimes we just need to be reminded of it. 

While our lives are no where near easy nor do we have a definite routine yet, it’s getting easier, day by day it is. I am confident that in another month it will be even better, hopefully we have a real routine by then. So second time mama, whose life is turned completely upside down right now, it gets easier. Just hold on. 
😘 xo, you got this! 

Seasons of life


This morning I was feeling really overwhelmed in my mom role and not at all prepared for Devin to go back to work as it’s Monday. In fact I was dreading him leaving because I just really wanted his help. As a mom I really don’t have time to feel this way because time isn’t stopping and the day will continue on with or without me being ready. 

 Now I know I’m only feeling this way due to lack of sleep… I forgot how little sleep you actually get with a newborn. Not to mention the wee hours of the night is when Mila gets a little cranky and just wants to be held, so typically from about 2AM to 4AM neither of us are sleeping… or she is and I’m rocking her because the second I put her down she will cry and this mama ain’t got no time for that cry it out method. This morning when I was feeling overwhelmed I really just needed a break, even if it was just for an hour. So when I finally got her back to sleep and Ellie was eating breakfast engulfed in Maya the Bee, I got some oils on, started diffusing some Joy and brewed a pot of coffee. I haven’t had coffee in probably a week so this was much needed. Then I sat down with my coffee and poured myself into a business video I’ve been wanting to watch for a few days – while I would have loved to sleep instead, this cup of coffee and video was just what I needed today in that moment. 

The gal in the video talked about seasons of life. This season I’m in will pass and we will be in a new one in the blink of an eye. This was the reminder I needed this morning. I need to embrace this season because soon miss Mila will be sleeping through the night and I just might miss those wee hours of the morning where it’s just her and I snuggling. 

Lately I’ve been so busy in my mom role I haven’t really had time for anything else. This morning I got a little bit of normalcy. I am glad I was able to recharge and heard exactly what I needed to hear in order to realize this too shall pass. I was reminded to see the beauty in this trying season even when I could fall asleep and probably sleep for a day. 

So moral of the story is the seasons are always changing and they usually don’t last too long. 

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